To speak or not to speak

I feel bad when I don't post on here in a long time but I always manage to console myself by saying only 3 people read it anyways!

Today I heard tragic news. A young girl in Hastings was killed last night by a drunk driver. She was a friend of my husbands cousin. Another of my friends responded to the call. Many of my friends knew her. There is a lot of hurt happening right now so I just praying that I can have the right words or, as was my case when I was in this situation, the correct lack of words. It is hard to know what to say when things like this happen. Everyone deals with grief in a different way. I like to hide and not talk for a really long time. Others like to remember the people that are gone. The most important thing that I learned was not to say anything at all unless asked. Never say it is going to be alright because nothing is alright when life has been dramatically changed or stolen! I pray that the right words and the right silences will be given to me so I can be there for my friends.